Making Yourself A Priority

You have probably said that to a friend or heard it yourself, but it is true. If you want to live a life that is fulfilling and abundant, then you have to learn to love yourself and make yourself a priority. Yet, right now as you read this you’re thinking that this sounds like a selfish way to live. It’s literally the opposite. When you learn to love yourself, and you start to put yourself first, everyone and everything around you benefit from it. You care enough to protect your mental and physical health, which means you have the energy for everyone else. What other benefits come from making yourself a priority in your own life? Let’s take a look.

Here are five benefits of making yourself a priority in your own life…

1. Your Health
This is obviously the most obvious benefit. Just think about how you feel after a stressful day (weekend or week). Do you often experience long weeks where you fantasize about how you will spend your weekend only to finally reach the point and struggle to get out of bed? Your body can and will force you to rest if you don’t take care of it. Stress increases your stress levels, breaks down your immune system, and leaves you more likely to pick up every bug going around. Taking care of yourself is part of supporting your physical health, as well as your emotional self, mental health, and spiritual self, too.

2. Improve Relationships
Friendships, familial and romantic relationships improve when you look after yourself. How can you expect anyone to appreciate and love you when you struggle to do the same? More importantly, how can you expect that when you aren’t your best self? You shouldn’t be afraid to put yourself first. Take the time you need for yourself, and let your romantic partner do the same. That allows both of you to remain centered. You will both be more fun to spend time with. Likewise, your friendships and relationships with work colleagues and family members will also benefit.

3. The Familial Benefits
Let’s focus more on how your family and friends will actually benefit. How often do you cancel plans or refuse to make them in the first place? You’re just too exhausted to make dinner, you can’t get up early enough to grab breakfast. The people in your life already love you, they want you to be happy, and they want you to be healthy. So, by putting yourself first and making yourself a priority, you are able to present your best self to them as well.

4. Happiness
At the end of the day, we all want to find happiness. This is how you achieve that – don’t be scared to tap out and take a bubble bath with a glass of wine. Don’t think about what everyone else will think if you take a weekend to yourself to relax. When you learn to listen to your body you are going to be happier. This means that those naysayers will have nothing to complain about when they realize just how much they benefit from knowing the whole of you.

5. Work-Life
You will be more productive, more creative, and a better communicator when you are looking after yourself. Just think about how wonderful you feel after a great night’s sleep. That’s the dream, well, you can live that dream if you just make yourself a priority and take the time you deserve. It will have a knock-on effect in every area of your life, and your colleagues and employer will definitely see the difference.

Am I a Priority in My Own Life?
The more relationships we have and the closer those relationships are, the more priorities we can have. As you rise in the business world or in society, maybe find a partner, maybe have kids, it can be easy to lose yourself as a priority.
Healthy relationships work as a network of support that allows you to live while not being your own top priority because you become the top priority of other people in that network. While you may not be your own top priority, you need to always be a priority in your own life. If you don’t make sure that all of your needs are met, it can be harder for you to meet the needs of those people or ideas that you have prioritized.
If everyone in your life seems happy but you feel miserable, it may be time to ask yourself “Am I a priority in my you have, the more of your time they may take up. But you do have time for yourself, right?


This doesn’t have to be the time that you are alone, but it should be time that is spent doing something that you enjoy. Maybe that is being by yourself, reading a book. Maybe it’s going out with your friends, or time that you spend exercising.
This is your time, but because it can still involve other people. If you have a significant other, she or he can significantly eat into your you-time. Consider bringing that person along to do some of your favorite things. You may find that it meets your personal needs while bringing the two of you closer together.
Have You Already Started to Think about Leaving Certain Commitments?
Usually, when we start to feel burned out, we start to feel a little more aggressive – or at least a little less enthused, about certain aspects of our lives. Usually, these are the low-priority things that we keep doing because they crept into the schedule and set up shop.
Usually, these are things that you started doing a long time ago but are no longer important to you. Sometimes they are things that you signed up for without really knowing what you were getting into. If you feel like you are no longer a priority in your own life, it may be time to end some of these activities.
This can be hard. It may feel like you are letting people down. As discussed above, however, if you aren’t meeting your own needs, it becomes difficult to explain the needs of others. Explain this to anyone who will be affected, and they will probably understand. You may also want to offer to remain with the organization or practice but taking on a role that is less demanding of your time and energy.

Have You Had a Vacation Recently?

Of course, it might be best to slow down a little bit. Before you take an ax to your schedule, try to take some time off. From everything. Maybe you are still a priority and you’ve just been busy lately. Maybe you don’t need to remove obligations or find a new hobby, you just need to lay in the sun for a bit.
Is it More Serious than That?
If you started feeling this way shortly after a major life change, keep an eye on your other feelings too. Sometimes what you might think is just fatigue could actually be depression or even post-traumatic stress disorder set off by a major life event like a death in the family or a car accident.
If the feeling persists for more than two weeks, talk to your primary care provider. She or he may be able to help you determine whether you are just burning the candle at both ends or whether you have an emotional disorder that requires further care. Talk to your primary care provider right away if you have thoughts of suicide or self-harm.
Losing yourself as a priority in your life isn’t a serious problem in most cases. For the most part, it just means that you need to carve out part of your schedule to get in a little bit more you-time.